Let me tell you from my personal experience how difficult it is to earn 2,500 yuan!
Last year due to the epidemic, the children were quarantined at home. I took my son for a walk in the community often, and we could always meet the neighbor mother and daughter, and over time we became familiar with them.
The two children are one year apart, so being able to play together gives us more contact.
Occasionally, my neighbor would share with me things about her: She was divorced, and her daughter Hanhan was living with her. She rented a house in our community, and her ex-husband was not doing his job. Although the monthly alimony was agreed to be 1,500 yuan, Never given.
Her parents are farmers. They are old and have her younger brother's children to take care of, so they are unable to help her at all.
So she not only has to take care of the children but also earn money to support the family. But I don’t see pessimism and disappointment on the faces of my neighbors, but more optimism and hope.
After the epidemic, when the children went to school, I would occasionally meet her and learn that she was working on a second-hand house. She had free time and could easily pick up and drop off her children. Later, everyone was busy with life and work, and there was no contact. .
One night, my neighbor sent me a message: Xuanxuan’s mother, I want to trouble you with something. It’s up to you to see if it’s convenient for you. If it’s not convenient, that’s okay.
At first I thought she was short of money, and I thought that as long as it was within my ability, I would agree to her.
She said: "I changed my job. I am in the sales office and the salary is good, but this job requires meetings and training in the evening. I get off work late and I don't have time to pick up Hanhan. Can you work from Monday to Friday? Go to the kindergarten to pick her up for me, and then have dinner at your house. I usually get off work at 8:30 in the evening. I will give you 2,500 yuan a month. Can you make it convenient?"
My working hours We are relatively free and can earn five to six thousand yuan a month. If we add another 2,500 yuan, our family's life will be more comfortable.
I only have three or four hours at night and my son has a playmate. I think it’s a good thing. After discussing it with my husband, I agreed.
My son gets out of school earlier, and every time I pick him up before picking him up, so it will be a bit late to pick him up. One day, Hanhan said to me: "Auntie, can you?" Pick me up first one day, and pick up my brother first the other day?”
I didn’t know how to answer, so I explained to Hanhan: The reason why I picked up my brother first was just because he got out of school earlier than you. In Hanhan's heart, she hopes that I can treat her and my son fairly.
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I pulled my son over without asking any questions and scolded me: Why did you hit your sister?
My son didn’t speak, but I saw that his eye circles were red. I ordered my son: “Quickly, apologize to my sister.”
My son cried and said: “It’s her I broke my toy first.”
I regretted it at the time and felt that I was too rude to my son. I should first understand what happened before making a decision.
The fact is: During the time Hanhan was at our house, my son was scolded many times because Hanhan cried.
In addition, the power of two children is far greater than that of one child.
Sometimes the two children run around on the floor without shoes;
Sometimes the two children jump around on the sofa with bare feet and remove the cushions on the sofa. Throw them all to the ground;
Sometimes the two children throw all the quilts on the bed to the ground.
Every time I see this kind of scene, it must be my son who is being scolded. Later, I think about it, didn’t my son play wherever he wanted in the past? Why can’t I stand it now?
When my son comes home from school, he always gives me a hug and a hug. Now, whenever Hanhan sees her, she wants me to hug her, which makes me a little embarrassed.
Hanhan eats and drinks exactly the same as my son in our house, but if I were asked to treat her in the same way, I really can't do it.
That day, Hanhan asked me to hug her again, but I didn’t hug her. She started crying and shouted angrily: "Do you not love me anymore? Do you not love me anymore?" < /p>
This question makes me dumbfounded. Where do I start from loving her? But how can I explain to this four-year-old child that I have no obligation to give her love?
Later, in order to avoid such embarrassment, I told my son: When Hanhan is at our house, try not to hug me, otherwise Hanhan will miss her mother.
When I promised Hanhan’s mother, she told me that she sometimes got off work very late.
The most impressive time was when I got off work at 12 o'clock in the evening. That day was their celebration party. At the beginning, Hanhan's mother told me: She would come back later and let Hanhan sleep at our house now.
But Hanhan was used to sleeping with her mother in her arms every day, so she couldn't sleep at all at our house. The two children played like this until almost eleven o'clock. We really had no energy left. I said to Hanhan: Sleep at our house and your mother will take you home when she comes back.
Hanhan said: "I have to sit and wait for my mother."
At that time, I felt a little sad that such a young child had to bear such grievances since childhood.
My son saw that Hanhan was not sleeping, and he was too excited to fall asleep. So at twelve o'clock, Hanhan was picked up by her mother, and my son fell asleep.
The time Hanhan’s mother gets off work is always uncertain. Sometimes it’s after eight o’clock, sometimes it’s after nine o’clock. Many times, I wait until Hanhan is picked up before I let my son brush his teeth, wash his feet and go to bed. It's often past ten o'clock when I go to bed at night. My son and I sometimes skip the daily parent-child reading time, and I don’t pay that much attention to my son.
It is really difficult to raise other people’s children with heart and love.
She did something wrong, so I can’t discipline her; she has requests, and I have to try my best to satisfy her; she has emotions, and I have to try to appease her.
And I really don’t have enough patience to tolerate all the joys and sorrows of my son. For this reason, my husband and I also began to have frequent conflicts. Trivial things can cause great conflicts between us. The contradiction is that our home is no longer a paradise of love, but more like an inflated balloon that will burst at any time.
After thinking about it, I think it was Hanhan’s arrival that changed the rhythm and atmosphere of our family’s life. In order to earn 2,500 yuan, I even tried to please Hanhan, ignored my son, and scolded him indiscriminately. .
In the end, after four months of watching Hanhan, I politely rejected Hanhan’s mother.
Let’s not talk about other accidental risks. If you have children at home, you need to think about these questions first:
1. Does your husband unconditionally support you in taking care of your neighbor’s children?
2. Are you willing to share some of the love you have for your children with your neighbor’s children?
3. If your neighbor’s children do something wrong, can you do it without scolding or hitting them? Be able to reason;
4. Are you able to accept that your child may be wronged?
Only if you can do all of these can you take this job, otherwise your life will be in turmoil and your heart will be extremely tired.
If you were a stay-at-home mother, would you accept this 2,500 yuan job?
You can do it, why can’t you do it? If you have nothing else to do, just do it, but you must be responsible and pay attention to the safety of your children. If you can’t do this, don’t take it.
First of all, this can definitely be done. You can have a job and earn an income, and at the same time you can help your neighbors solve a lot of practical difficulties and problems, which is beneficial to both of you.
Nowadays, many families around schools are doing this kind of thing, that is, providing after-school care services for students. This is almost the same thing as your neighbor asking you to do this.
However, if you want to do this well, you still have to pay attention to two aspects.
First of all, while ensuring that you pick up and drop off your children on time, you must also ensure the safety of your children. You must not let your children have accidents on the way or at your home, and you must take good care of your children.
On the other hand, because the child has to have dinner at your home, you have to ensure food safety and not let the child develop allergies or diarrhea. Otherwise, the two parties will have another problem. Conflicts will arise.
My personal suggestion is that before doing this, it is best to have a mutual agreement between you and your neighbor to agree on your respective responsibilities and obligations.
In this case, both parties are protected, especially you.
Of course, there is also the question of whether 2,500 yuan per month is too much or too little. You have to think clearly about it yourself. We don’t know which city you live in. If you live in a first-tier city, 2,500 a month is indeed not much, but if you live in a third- or fourth-tier city, it may be too much. You can figure this out for yourself. Bar.
If you can clearly distinguish the difference between a neighbor and a nanny, you will know how to make decisions and think twice before you act.
You can’t do it. If you do, you will become an enemy.
No, you can’t accept it even if you are offered 10,000 yuan. If her child loses a hair, the responsibility lies with you. The compensation you have to pay may be dozens or even a hundred times of 2,500 yuan.
This is okay. You have dedicated your own love and solved the problem for others. of worries. I get some of the profits myself. Why not do it!
In today’s fast-paced society. Very unkind to young mothers and fathers. Parents have had to face the problem of picking up and dropping off their children from and to school since they entered kindergarten. The time when school is out. Very unfriendly to duplex families. If neither parent comes to help take care of it. You can only ask for leave yourself. Or adjust the time.
This is the situation in our family. The child goes to kindergarten. Entering the kindergarten at 7:40 in the morning is not too early, because the teacher is not here. School ends at 5pm. It can't be too late. If it's too late, the teacher is off work.
However, if you send your children to kindergarten at 7:40 and then go to work, you will basically be late. We have to pick up our children in time when school is over at 5pm. You also have to ask for leave before you can come out. Otherwise, this time will not be coincidental.
If you want to avoid deducting wages, you must find someone to pick you up and drop you off. So the demand in this area is actually very marketable. If you are free at this time, you might as well dedicate your love. Anyway, idle is idle. Am I right?
I wish the kindhearted people a safe life!
Tribute to our old-timers!
If you are not particularly short of money, it is recommended not to take this job.
It is different if the neighbor gives you money and if you don’t. If you give money, you have responsibilities. Safety issues must be dealt with every day. On time, if you don't pay, you can occasionally help and take you along. Whether you charge or not is up to you. Personally, I don't think it is necessary. If you don't see you when you look up, you will see you when you look down. Far relatives are not as good as close neighbors.
Question: My neighbor gives me 2,500 yuan a month to help her pick up her children from kindergarten. Can I do that?
Helping to take care of the children not only solves the worries of the neighbors, but also provides extra income. It can be said that it kills two birds with one stone and benefits both parties.
Why is this mother still hesitant?
It may be that the mother feels that raising two children is too hard and she is afraid that she cannot do it, or maybe she feels that the salary is too low. After all, hiring a nanny to take care of the baby for 2,500 yuan is a bit less.
Whether you want to agree to your neighbor’s request depends on two aspects: on the one hand, it depends on your family’s financial situation. Is it insufficient for this expenditure?
On the other hand, is it easy to take care of the other person’s baby? Do you get along well with your child?
1: As a stay-at-home mother, you need to increase your family income. You may consider this.
If your family’s economic conditions are average and the pressure is high, and you can only take care of your child by yourself, then you might as well bring one more child. More income.
If your family has good financial conditions and is not short of her money, then suggest that she send her to after-school care. You can help for free occasionally, but you are not obligated to help in the long term.
Two: See if the two children can get along well?
My neighbor has to go to work and cannot pick up and drop off her children, so she needs help from this mother. This is a neighborly relationship, and we occasionally help each other. This way for a long time, the mother will be troubled. She has to pay 2,500 yuan to pick up and drop off her children, and she has to take care of her children until 11 o'clock in the evening. .
If you are tired of raising one child, you will be even more devastated if you have two children. Especially when the two children don’t get along well, just quarreling and fighting will give you a headache.
There are also children of similar age who can play together, but the chance of this is relatively small. It depends on your fate.
If you have a worry-free baby, you can take care of two. If you have a worry-free baby, you will be afraid of even one.
It is impossible for two children to love each other equally. After all, you are in an employment relationship. Please refer to the practice of after-school classes and only care about the children's food and safety.
Your neighbor’s get off work hours are not fixed, and the latest is 11 o’clock at night, which will actually affect your family’s rest.
If you really want to do it, I suggest you make an agreement to pick up the child before 9 o'clock, so as not to affect the rest of your family.
If your family is not short of money, there is no need for you to take on this thankless job. After all, the child is the neighbor’s treasure. If he is accidentally injured, it is hard to explain. It is not easy to educate the child. Thing.
Unless you are really short of money and the children play well, you are not tired from taking them, and it does not affect your original rhythm, then you can consider it.